being a bitch is often the ONLY thing that most guys ( read MOST) respond to. I've had two of my male friends tell me how much they love that their girlfriends wont take any crap off of them.....why are they like this? It's because they need to know how strong a woman is mentally, we generally show our "soft girly side" because we know it is the first thing that attracts a man.....BUT! You have to hold onto them with a firm attitude, sometimes that means being a bitch. For example, my boyfriend FINALLY realized how much he loves me because I wont allow him to disrespect me in ANY way, shape or form. He respects me, gives me more room to breath, instead of being up my butt every 5 minutes for a few months before burning out on having my attention. The discovery was made (by him actually) when I planted my hands on my hips in the middle of a billiards game and told him "touch my butt again and I'm going to break your digits baby" with a sweet smile on my face. He stopped dead in his tracks and just looked startled before apologizing to me. His hands have remained in the appropriate place ever since when we're in public. This is not to say you have to use the same wording that I use, but then I'm a very petite and lithe lady, and sometimes getting the point across means being (yeah you guessed it) a real bitch. So....yes, being a bitch works well for some of us, and not so well for others. For me, it works wonders, my boyfriend (who is asian and probably one of the last men I would have expected to be "grabby") is more loving, sensitive and generally respectful of me. He's told me he loves me, has a tendency to want to please me, and to keep himself disciplined and well maintained at all times for my pleasure:) (sorry guys, if that offends you, but I LIKE IT!)